13-Jul-2012, 03:31 PM
MESSAGE 2 MODERATOR: Please do not shift this article under “Say No to Arranged Marriage”. You can deal with a topic in many ways. And unless you put it in a separate thread how can the reader know about it. It’d be illogical if you put all marriage-related articles under “Say No to Arranged Marriage”. I say this because you’d done this to my previous article.
I have a simple suggestion: Why don’t you create a master thread called Marriage and put all marriage-related articles in it?
Please remove this message to you, before approving the article.
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The whole of Indian society suffers from an Idiotic Fixation with marriage!
In India, almost all get married…or “have to” get married. And those who do not are frowned upon by society.
Why the marriage fixation?
Is marriage a ticket to heaven?
Is marriage a magic formula to brighten one’s future?
Is this marriage a solution to all our ills?
It is a fixation that has resulted in a false prestige and respectability being attached to the marital institution.
The fixation is so much that if you’re unmarried at 35, even strangers will immediately ask the question, “Why are you not married?” Believe me this can happen on the first contact itself! No one has a right to ask such personal question! It’s indecent! It’s impolite!
The only exception can be in the case of people whom you are close to. Even in this case no one has a right to ask that question more than a few times.
I am going to “dissect” the FARCE & IDIOCY behind this “marriage fixation” in India, below. So keep reading on…
Marriage for All the Wrong Reasons
The marriage culture in India is totally flawed! People here get married for all the wrong reasons! And what are those:
From the man’s point of view:
• To get a maidservant…oops…wife to help his aging mother in doing household chores
• To preserve the family name through offsprings
From the woman’s point of view:
• To live up to society’s expectation (men too marry for the same reason)
• If delayed she will go past the “use by date” and there will be nobody to marry her
To tell you the truth, these are PRIMITIVE reasons to marry!
The human body has evolved. The human mind & culture has also evolved. But some aspects of our culture are slow in evolving to a more matured state. The marital institution is one of them.
Polluted Arranged Marriage Culture
The arranged marriage culture is a highly polluted one! Let’s look at the reasons:
1. The perverse dowry custom (through which men prostituting themselves in the marriage market)
2. Putting undue pressure on boys/girls to get married
3. Forcing son/daughter to marry someone of their parents choice
4. Heinous dowry-related killings
5. Sticking to a rotten husband/wife for the rest of the life
6. Oppressive atmosphere for the wife (forcing her to committing suicide)
These are the kind of perversities that we regularly see in arranged marriage culture!
Incredible Indian Hypocrisy
The arranged marriage culture has these two perversities - the Dowry System and men Prostituting themselves in the marriage market.
But we have the great Indian society singing praises of the HOLY institution of marriage! And to maintain the sanctity of marriage they talk about how you should NOT do this and that…or else you will be condemned as immoral.
Can you believe that? It’s just like a characterless person calling himself classy! It’s also like an ugly person who calls himself handsome!
This is an incredible case of SELF-DENIAL and also HYPOCRISY of the filthiest kind!
What kind of brainsickness is this?
“Retarded” Marriage Culture!
Our marriage culture lacks MATURITY and INTELLIGENCE!
There is little or no matured-thinking regarding very important aspects related to marriage. These are:
• How to make the right choice of one’s life-partner?
• How to make the marital life an extremely fulfilling and successful one?
• How to deal with differences and incompatibilities between the couple?
• How to efficiently and intelligently bring up one’s children, so that they grow up into matured & well-mannered citizens?
How many Indian families discuss these issues, esp. in a free and open and informed manner? Hardly any!
In this society, ANYONE can get married! Even if you’re a Moron, Half-Mad, Characterless, Corrupt, Crude or Uncouth, rest assured, you can easily get married!
In this retarded society, performing the ritual of marriage is MORE IMPORTANT than the above 4 aspects of marriage.
Finally
If we had a truly matured marital culture, then perhaps I’d not have objected to this marriage fixation as much. But keeping in view all the deficiencies, stupidities and perversities in all the Indian marriages, the “marriage fixation” is not only baffling – but also sickening!
I have a simple suggestion: Why don’t you create a master thread called Marriage and put all marriage-related articles in it?
Please remove this message to you, before approving the article.
=========================
The whole of Indian society suffers from an Idiotic Fixation with marriage!
In India, almost all get married…or “have to” get married. And those who do not are frowned upon by society.
Why the marriage fixation?
Is marriage a ticket to heaven?
Is marriage a magic formula to brighten one’s future?
Is this marriage a solution to all our ills?
It is a fixation that has resulted in a false prestige and respectability being attached to the marital institution.
The fixation is so much that if you’re unmarried at 35, even strangers will immediately ask the question, “Why are you not married?” Believe me this can happen on the first contact itself! No one has a right to ask such personal question! It’s indecent! It’s impolite!
The only exception can be in the case of people whom you are close to. Even in this case no one has a right to ask that question more than a few times.
I am going to “dissect” the FARCE & IDIOCY behind this “marriage fixation” in India, below. So keep reading on…
Marriage for All the Wrong Reasons
The marriage culture in India is totally flawed! People here get married for all the wrong reasons! And what are those:
From the man’s point of view:
• To get a maidservant…oops…wife to help his aging mother in doing household chores
• To preserve the family name through offsprings
From the woman’s point of view:
• To live up to society’s expectation (men too marry for the same reason)
• If delayed she will go past the “use by date” and there will be nobody to marry her
To tell you the truth, these are PRIMITIVE reasons to marry!
The human body has evolved. The human mind & culture has also evolved. But some aspects of our culture are slow in evolving to a more matured state. The marital institution is one of them.
Polluted Arranged Marriage Culture
The arranged marriage culture is a highly polluted one! Let’s look at the reasons:
1. The perverse dowry custom (through which men prostituting themselves in the marriage market)
2. Putting undue pressure on boys/girls to get married
3. Forcing son/daughter to marry someone of their parents choice
4. Heinous dowry-related killings
5. Sticking to a rotten husband/wife for the rest of the life
6. Oppressive atmosphere for the wife (forcing her to committing suicide)
These are the kind of perversities that we regularly see in arranged marriage culture!
Incredible Indian Hypocrisy
The arranged marriage culture has these two perversities - the Dowry System and men Prostituting themselves in the marriage market.
But we have the great Indian society singing praises of the HOLY institution of marriage! And to maintain the sanctity of marriage they talk about how you should NOT do this and that…or else you will be condemned as immoral.
Can you believe that? It’s just like a characterless person calling himself classy! It’s also like an ugly person who calls himself handsome!
This is an incredible case of SELF-DENIAL and also HYPOCRISY of the filthiest kind!
What kind of brainsickness is this?
“Retarded” Marriage Culture!
Our marriage culture lacks MATURITY and INTELLIGENCE!
There is little or no matured-thinking regarding very important aspects related to marriage. These are:
• How to make the right choice of one’s life-partner?
• How to make the marital life an extremely fulfilling and successful one?
• How to deal with differences and incompatibilities between the couple?
• How to efficiently and intelligently bring up one’s children, so that they grow up into matured & well-mannered citizens?
How many Indian families discuss these issues, esp. in a free and open and informed manner? Hardly any!
In this society, ANYONE can get married! Even if you’re a Moron, Half-Mad, Characterless, Corrupt, Crude or Uncouth, rest assured, you can easily get married!
In this retarded society, performing the ritual of marriage is MORE IMPORTANT than the above 4 aspects of marriage.
Finally
If we had a truly matured marital culture, then perhaps I’d not have objected to this marriage fixation as much. But keeping in view all the deficiencies, stupidities and perversities in all the Indian marriages, the “marriage fixation” is not only baffling – but also sickening!