Hello,
So I am at an age where my friends are getting married and we regularly have discussions on what is right or wrong to expect from a potential partner. Often, we come down to a point where people claim they want a homemaker. I would generally point out that stereotyping gender roles when it is unnecessary is 'unethical'. Especially when being a homemaker is a thankless, unrewarding job which facilitates abuse and dependency. Sharing responsibilities gives both parties a little bit of freedom and divides the power in a relationship. However, they argue that a marriage is a contract and they are looking for women who "want" to be a homemaker. In other words, it is a consensual decision and some women like to be a homemaker. Marriage is just matching preferences and 'being a homemaker' is one of them, ergo there is nothing wrong in seeking one (They use this argument for caste-based matching as well). They say all this notion of power struggle is crap and really love is what holds a relationship from abuse. Is there a qualitative way to establish these theories?
I can't exactly put my finger on it. But something about 'seeking out women who want to be homemakers' seems fundamentally wrong. Although I get the point that one must encourage an individual's liberty to be a homemaker, I just feel that it is a position that is ripe for domestic abuse and loveless relationships.
So if women want to be homemakers and men seek out such women for marriage, how can such a decision be unethical? What are your thoughts on this?
So I am at an age where my friends are getting married and we regularly have discussions on what is right or wrong to expect from a potential partner. Often, we come down to a point where people claim they want a homemaker. I would generally point out that stereotyping gender roles when it is unnecessary is 'unethical'. Especially when being a homemaker is a thankless, unrewarding job which facilitates abuse and dependency. Sharing responsibilities gives both parties a little bit of freedom and divides the power in a relationship. However, they argue that a marriage is a contract and they are looking for women who "want" to be a homemaker. In other words, it is a consensual decision and some women like to be a homemaker. Marriage is just matching preferences and 'being a homemaker' is one of them, ergo there is nothing wrong in seeking one (They use this argument for caste-based matching as well). They say all this notion of power struggle is crap and really love is what holds a relationship from abuse. Is there a qualitative way to establish these theories?
I can't exactly put my finger on it. But something about 'seeking out women who want to be homemakers' seems fundamentally wrong. Although I get the point that one must encourage an individual's liberty to be a homemaker, I just feel that it is a position that is ripe for domestic abuse and loveless relationships.
So if women want to be homemakers and men seek out such women for marriage, how can such a decision be unethical? What are your thoughts on this?